Q: I am joining my boyfriend's family for Thanksgiving dinner this year. I've met his parents, but the dinner is being held at his aunt and uncle's house (both of whom I've never met). He told me not to bring anything, but I am an unknown, non-related guest! I should bring SOMETHING, right? Any suggestions? Please help! :) P.S. Unfortunately, I don't know what kind of wine they drink (they live in Napa, California of all places, so who knows!).
A: I was going to say a dessert wine, til I read the last line - if you feel adventurous, go for it. Dessert wines are a good gift - they don't necessarily have to be served if they clash with the meal, and it's a nice gesture. How about a small bouquet? Or a small, token gift like soap of something? Or a little (little!) fruit/cheese tray - something they can put off to the side if it doesn't go with dinner. The trick to this is not to make them uncomfortable, like they should accomodate your gift, but something as an "aside." They will remember your laughter, your demeanor and your company long after whatever you bring, if you choose anything or nothing, so don't feel bad if you arrive emptyhanded. A warm handshake and perhaps a small goodnight hug could be the best gift of the evening.