Q: My boyfriend and I are going to visit my granny who is almost 90 years old. The problem though is that all she knows about him is what my father told her and he hates my boyfriend because he's black. I don't know if she'll be more racist since she's older or if she'll be more accepting since she's lonely. I am not looking forward to it because I am expecting that we'll get in a racial argument then she'll have a heart attack and keel over. I need advice on how to handle the situation.
A: Give Grandma a Scripture from God: James (who was Jesus' half brother wrote this) in James 3:17 "But the wisdom that is from above is first pure, then peaceable, gentle, and easty to be entreated, full of mercy and good fruits, without partiality, and without hypocrisy." God was not a respector of persons. God loved us all regardless of skin color. Jesus was from the Middle East and they are very dark browned skinned people. Black people are nothing but the darkest brown of people which looks black. I don't believe your dad hates him. I do believe that your dad knows that the culture difference often makes the life of a white and black marriage very difficult to live. His grandma may feel worse about it than your grandma does. It is like having a strike against you before you even get married. Marriage is a lifetime commitment and you will always come up against prejudiced people. You must love more than most to make it last, because you will need to overlook a lot. Don't upset your 90 year old grandma for any reason.